Updated: Jan 21, 2022
Whether you're afraid someone will laugh at you for being incompetent, or you just can't admit to yourself that you don't have it all handled and together, asking for help can be hard. It can be embarrassing, too—especially if you feel like everyone else is keeping up and you're the only one falling behind. But that’s not true! Everyone is constantly growing and maturing on their level. You are just busy dealing with your struggles that you can’t see how far you’ve come, but the ones on the outside see how far you’ve progressed.
Whether you're embarrassed to talk to someone else about your issues, or you're scared to tell someone, you don't understand how to handle and deal with things, the longer you put off asking for help, the worse your problem may become.
Here are few things to remember the next time you're too embarrassed to ask for help:
1. Admitting you need help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Acknowledging your shortcomings—rather than masking them—is a sign of strength, not weakness. After all, you can't change what you don't acknowledge.
2. Getting help can save you a lot of time and aggravation. In some cases, early intervention is best. It's a lot easier to get help for issues when you first see warning signs, rather than five years down the road. Or it's easier to fix a problem that you've only screwed up a little, rather than trying to fix it after you've caused some serious damage.
3. Seeking assistance gives others an opportunity to serve you. Some people fear that asking for help will bother someone else. Do you know that someone else's Disappointment is someone else's Appointment? When you get disappointed, God has an Appointment of Encouragement that is coming your way! Research has since confirmed that asking for help can make you more likable.
4. You aren't the only one struggling. If you are feeling overwhelmed about something, it's easy to convince yourself that you're the only one having a hard time. But there's a good chance that if you're struggling, someone else is, too. They might not be brave enough to admit it. If you find the courage to speak up first, someone else may feel more comfortable stepping forward and admitting their struggle too.
5. Asking for help can make you more comfortable in your own skin. Refusing to ask for help is a short-term solution that leads to longer-term problems. While it may spare you a minute of embarrassment, avoiding assistance can lead to much more embarrassment down the road.
Asking for help is a great experiment: It'll help you challenge negative assumptions about yourself and show you how others react to your requests. And the more often you do it, the more confident you'll become in your ability to handle a little bit of embarrassment or discomfort.
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